Have
you ever criticise people before?
So
much so you can find thousands of faults in them...
That you can literally laugh
your head off…
As
human nature, we love to find fault
with others...
I
was being labelled and teased during my school days…
People
called me names like ‘skinny’, ‘ugly’, ‘stupid’, ‘miss impossible’ and etc.
So
much so I have no friends for the first 3 years of my schooling days…
When
I was 9 years, I finally had one true friend that stuck by me endlessly.
But
she died of cancer when we transited to high school at the age of 13…
After
that, I was without a friend again during my teenage years.
I
was again being labelled for all the insults threw at my face…
Each
time I tried to be nice and friendly,
I
was cast out…
That’s
when I begin to find solitude a friend…
Words
hurt….
It
strikes me how people be so mean to one another…
That they
can say hurtful things that doesn’t mean anything to them…
But
it means the world to those who listened and moan over it…
When
I come across the bible verse of Ephesians 4:28 that said
“Do not let any
unwholesome talk comes out of your mouth…”
I
realised that that is what we all needed...
To keep our words in tact!
To keep our words in tact!
For
the past few years,
I
was there and done that…
I threw plenty of unwholesome talks around.
So
much so, people started to walk out of me…
I
lost a brilliant friendship,
I
lost all the wonderful memories that will brighten up my future…
I
lost everything…
Because
of all the unwholesome talks that come out of my mouth…
Honestly,
Nobody
wants to know how terrible they are,
Even
if it is the truth…
We
all need empathy in life…
And
so does everyone else in this world…
Because
we don’t know what others are going thru…
And
nobody knows what we are going thru…
They
may seems to have everything you think they need…
And
they think we might seems to have everything we need…
But
there are lots of things that they don’t tell you about themselves…
And
we also don’t tell them everything about ourselves….
They
may have struggled all throughout the years…
Which
nobody knows what it is…
And
we also struggled so much over the years that we tell nobody about it…
Yet,
we treated each other as if they have the perfect world…
And vice versa...
And vice versa...
When the world is hardly ever perfect...
Life
is a huge struggle…
All
of us go thru it….
Even multi-millionaires go thru it just so to be rich…
Even
Jesus Christ has to bear the pain for our sake by being condemned on the cross…
And
still do until today…
Yet,
we continue to let unwholesome talks fly out of the mouth…
Because
we thought it is just right…
The
truth is…
You
lose more than you gain…
Have
you heard of the saying…
“What
comes round, goes round…”
That
is true…
When
we gossip about others…
People
will gossip about us in return…
When we condemn others,
People
will condemn us as well…
If
we lie to them,
We
will be lied in return…
But
if you do good to people…
Even
if someone tend to hurt you for your goodness,
You
will be surprised to know that those who cherish you will naturally stands up
for you…
So
it is the same with words…
If
you compliment others… (with the truth, of course!)
They
will naturally do the same to you as well…
Of
course,
In
some culture,
It
is a challenge to have people saying positive things about you...
because it is a taboo to do as that…
because it is a taboo to do as that…
But
God has taught us that it is wiser to avoid unwholesome talk…
Unwholesome talk include things that are not true even if it sounds positive to the ears…
Everybody
needs to hear the truth – YES!
And
most people will not hesitant to tell the truth…
And
they did it real good with lots of negativity….
And
that’s exactly why relationships are broken…
Because
negative words hurt…
It
is very similar to being insulted, labelled and name-calling…
And
that’s what people detested most!
Honestly,
Nobody,
not even the worst person in this world, deserves that…
Each
and everyone of us need a sense of sympathy…
We all want some kindness and gentleness in our life…
We all want some kindness and gentleness in our life…
We
are want to be loved and cared for…
Therefore,
Be
careful with your tongue…
Be
mindful with your words…
It
may take some brain-work to produce excellent conversation…
But
better a positive statement than a foul connection…
As
for me…
The
littler I said,
The
sweeter but truthful it is,
The
safer it is…
If
you really and truly unable to gurgle a good statement,
The
only solution is to remain speechless…
Based
on my recent experience and observation.
A
speechless man gains more friends than gossipers…
Although
he doesn't mean anything about his silent...
And has no intention to gain any attention for himself…
And has no intention to gain any attention for himself…
He maintains a great sense of peace and quiet…
He brings comfort to those who need tranquillity to of the moment...
He brings comfort to those who need tranquillity to of the moment...
That's what I
like...
And that's what I want...
Peace
and quiet…
Friendship
and love…
As
sweet as buttercup…
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