Friends: Forgive and forget

A question raised in my mind...

"Why friendship disappears when we fight with our friends?

Especially when there is huge misunderstanding...

That nobody can forgive and forget....

"Is it worth the separation due to such arguement?

Just because last time you think you were right during the fight...

Are you sure you were 100% right?"

When we argue/ fight/ quarrel...

We tend to say things that we regret later on in life...

But then,

In our mind...

"What is done... is done...

It is impossible to turn back time...

Even when we say, we forgive...

Doesn't mean that we can forget - on an instant..."

Shocking but true...

That's how human mind works...

You can forgive…

But you can never forget...

No matter how you try to erase it off...

The incident will come back knocking onto you...

Tears flew down from my eyes...

Memories of yesteryear refreshed back...

It is as if...

The entire moment happened right in front of my eyes...

That cheerful smile of a close friend...

That warm hug wrapped around my back when my heart was playing 'tug-of-war'

That one bosom friend whose tears flew together with mine when either one was heart broken...

Surprise gifts for special occasions...

A sudden embrace for joyful news...

Wow...

What a wonderful cherished friendship...

So close and so warm...

Thinking that nothing can break us up...

But then...

We were so darn wrong when something damaged us...

Friends become strangers...

That one path has now broken into two...

The closeness becomes so distance...

From I love you to I don’t know you....

Few years later...

Things change...

Perhaps we have grown up...

Grown mature...

And realized what that we done was wrong...

If only, we were like children...

After a fight, we become friends again...

But sad to say...

When we grow up...

We are full of pride...

Wanting to save face...

Nobody is willing to take the first step...

Both parties prefer to stand aloof waiting for the other fellow to give in...

But both of them didn't know that nobody wants to move forward unless they move first...

Because human nature say...

"Why should it be me?

Why not him/her?"

Thinking back...

If we were to say that adults are mature people...

Then I have to profoundly disagree!

Adults are big-size on the outside...

But small-size on the inside...

It means that...

They are physically grown-up...

But with an extremely childish attitude...

Whereas children are the opposite of the adults...

They are small-size on the outside...

But big-size on the inside...

They are so tiny that sometimes we forget they ever exist...

But their actions are so mature that they literally put the adults to shame...

Although children fight more often...

They re-connect back within a short span of time - as if nothing happen...

But for adults...

Once you fight... That's for life...

Forgive and forget...

Easy to say…

But never done...

At least for the adults...

Making it sounds like children are meek...

While adults are damn conceited...

But that's the truth....

The fact that nobody wants to admit...

How good it will be...

If we drop our 'suck-up' shield and open our heart like a child...

Then we will have less enemies on our list...

And more friends in our circle...

Then we will become a happier person...

Rather than someone who have detest another person...

Then life will be more colourful and lively...

Rather than gloomy and lonely...

There will be more laughter to expand

And less tears to burden on oneself...

If only...

We forgive and forget on an instant...

If only...

We move forward and say...

"I am sorry,

Doesn't matter who is right or wrong...

Just let us be friends again..."

Well...

That is if only...

When we are willing to throw away our pride...

And pick up the line once more...

So dear friends...

I hope that when we get angry at each other... It will only be a short while...

I hope that when we disagree with one another, we can still be friends forever...

Because friends build us up...

Friend gives us joy in life...

Friends multiply our laughter and divide our sorrow...

And friends are part of who we are...

Thank you for being my friend....