Humanly Love vs Godly Love

Humanly Love = selfish, full of Term & Condition and lots of expectations

Godly Love = love without any conditions, and without any expectation.

Humanly Love…

You love someone because you wanted something out of them…

You expect them to buy you a house, a car, be filthy rich and take you round the world…

But when they cannot afford to fulfill any one of those criteria(s),

You are done with loving them…

In your eyes,

Love = fulfilling your personal dreams and desire…

It’s all about you!

Never once about the person you love…

It’s a very selfish and completely self-centered!

Humanly love,

It’s all about materials….

Never once about other people’s feelings…

If you buy me a BMW,

I will love you,

If you buy me a mansion,

I will marry you…

If you intend to sleep in the tent,

You are best to sleep by yourself because I rather not be seen like a homeless shack…

Humanly Love people are the people that God will never take in kindly…

Trust me,

You will find yourself full of people who think highly of themselves and nothing about you…

Then one day when you need help…

You get no help at all because people who are full of themselves isn’t going to come down to your level and help you in any occasion…

Remember: They are only in your life when you have something to offer them and NOT vice versa…

But when you have something to offer,

They will immediately glue to you until they got exactly what they wanted and you are in for the worst!

These are the people that you want to be cautions as you don’t know what they might do to you.

Whereas Godly love is of a completely different story…

Godly love is pure and sincere…

They don’t need materials from you except that you love them completely from the inside out…

Godly love has no greed…

They don’t care if they have to sleep under the tent with you for a lifetime…

Or even living from paycheck to paycheck…

They don’t care if travel is only within local region and nowhere further than that…

To them, travel is not about the destination but the journey in itself…

Travel is with someone they loved and it’s by foot that discover hidden corners than by plane and only looking at clouds!

Godly love doesn’t ask for a house/ car/ money…

Neither do they ask if someone should change for them…

But rather they, the lover, willingly change for the love of their life…

Godly love is also uniquely spiritual...

They force you to move forward on your own...

Rather than giving you exactly want you want...

Godly love is about teaching you how to fish so that you can survive for life

Rather than giving you a fish and you only can live for a day...

Godly love is all about giving… And never once thought about receiving…

Remember: God gives His Son, Jesus Christ, to die on the cross so that we can be saved!

By right, we should be the one that die on the cross…

By right we should be the one that take up our own punishment…

Yet, thru God’s love, we were saved by His precious Son…

He gives and gives and gives…

And we, the selfish humans, take and take and take….

Until we take God’s love for granted and forgot to show appreciation…

Godly love willing sacrifices

They don’t ask for materialism except a beautiful loving relationship…

It is such simple act that even a baby is able to manifest by themselves…

Yet as we grow up,

It became a challenge display such purity of love…

Godly love….

Doesn’t requires you to be filthy rich/ handsome/ talented/ intelligence…

It doesn’t requires you to own a house/ car/ assets…

It just needs you to love completely in return…

It just needs you to be kind, humble, gentle, and loving….

It just needs you to be happy and joyful in all circumstances…

Godly love is an amazing journey shared by everyone around them…

It is something that money cannot buy….

Because it requires you to love with your whole heart and soul…

And the love that you offers enhance the beauty to and from those around you…

That’s why humanly love and godly love is so different!

You cannot love a person completely when you only eye on their asset…

But you can love them fully if you are more than willing to go the extra miles with them…

Remember: If you intend to love because you wanted a house/ car/ money….

You will soon find yourself in trouble…

Because having a house/ car/ wealth is just temporary…

Sooner or later, you will lose out the most crucial thing in life - Pure love…

Then when you seek for help,

Those who helps you will only help within their ability…

And not within your desire…

Humanly Love = selfish, full of Term & Condition and lots of expectations, only for personal greed

Godly Love = love without any conditions, and without any expectation and purely from the heart, soul and mind… To help all those around to love others deeply...

True love...

This message hit me…

While I was busy window shopping…

“A firm loving relationship can endure all obstacles set ahead of them…

Nothing can banish it regardless to the velocity of barriers…

When you say “You are mine - forever…”

Will that really means everlasting?

How far can you really go to fulfil your words?

How can you ensure you stay romantically in relationship forever?”

I learn that,

To be in an everlasting relationship…

We need to put in effort into order to make it work…

It is impossible to have one party giving all the way and the other one receiving only…

I don’t believe in that…

Because if that is the case,

Sooner or later,

The relationship will collapse…

I believe that no matter what kind of relationship we are in,

Communication is the most important factor of all…

If we don’t want to understand each other;

Then it will be difficult for us to be friends much less to be a lifetime partner…

However,

If you allowed that person to be your friend but no more than that…

There is still a boundary between both of you…

Then it is impossible to go further…

It is very normal to be afraid at times…

Especially when it comes to a life-changing experience like being in a relationship…

Being in a relationship can be a real challenge…

It is a lifetime commitment…

And we have to go the extra miles at all times in order to meet in the middle…

Because no matter how much we love someone,

There is always some difference between us…

That we need to learn how to entwine with it….

Thankfully,

We are not the only one…

Everyone who is in the relationship felt the same anxiety too…

But it is the matter of how we deal with it…

I remembered many years back,

One of my friends said that

She didn’t even know how she got into the relationship…

As in,

She didn’t know how she managed to let the guy enter into her heart…

She only knew that life is entirely different without him by her side…

As for agreeing to be his girlfriend…

It took her some time to accept him…

Partially because,

She doesn’t even know if it is the right thing to do…

She was entire confused and was quite down for some time…

As a very close friend,

I was quite helpless back then…

Until one day she suddenly made up her mind and said,

She agree to be with him…

Just like her,

I was also confused with the whole situation…

I also wonder whether she is doing the right thing…

As a friend,

I don’t want her to be hurt in case of a wrong decision…

But at the same time blessed her with a loving heart.

Now,

As I grow mature,

I understand that agreeing to be someone’s lifetime partner is a very stressful thing…

Half a time we wonder whether that person is really the one for us…

I know that some people just agree for the sake of ‘wanting to have a partner’

But the serious ones fear of making the wrong choice…

Because heartbreak will be so tormenting…

If you ask me about myself,

I am a serious lover…

I will give my all just like I do for my work and performances…

I am not perfect…

But I will always give the very best I can…

And that’s what I learn from the little voice inside me…

"We all have strong desire…

Some may even fall for each other due to lust…

But many fail to maintain the pure spiritual love for each other…

It is just so easy to say that three words, “I love you”

But does your feeling really mean more than the words itself?"

You may wonder why some marriage last forever,

But some break-up after a decade or two…

Well…

Long-lasting relationship requires:

1)    Time – lots of time… including sacrificing 80% of your personal moment. So you have to make sure you are truly comfortable with this person who is going to be in your life 24/7 for the rest of your life. If you feel creepy with his/ her existence – you are heading for disaster…

2)    Patience – you will bound to find flaws in your partner. If you cannot tolerate him/ her, you are heading for destruction – for REAL! Because then, every single day you will be fighting/ arguing over the same issue which will never come to an end until you are separated for good.

3)    Determination – The chase isn’t just for mere dating. Just because you are finally married doesn’t means you can take it easy…no! You still have to keep chasing as if you are going to lose him/ her anytime soon. The chase is on FOREVER! Unless you want the relationship comes to an end.

4)    Trust – you cannot be with someone whom you cannot share your deepest secret with. Especially when that person is going to be your roommate for life. (You don’t know what you might blabber in your sleep! – especially if your partner is a light sleeper and can hear everything…)

5)    Understanding – Everyone of us comes with a baggage. Nobody is completely perfect. So, we must be more than willing to deal with those baggages. The smartest way that I truly learn now is to ‘sleep on it…’

6)    Acceptance – Accept that everyone is different include the person you are with. DON’T ever try to change your partner!!! Your partner is the way s/he is and that’s that. You either take it or leave it. God has taken you the way you are including all your flaws; so don’t be such a horrible witch/ wizard and try to manipulate your poor partner into someone s/he isn’t. (that’s speaking from experience!)

So from here,

You can tell that lifelong relationship requires tremendous work…

You cannot be in a relationship if you are not ready to work hard for it.

It does look fun from the outside…

And it can be on the inside, too…

Except that you need to remember the 6 characteristic to make the relationship long-lasting…

Once you fully embedded into the 6 powerful characteristics,

You will be able to embrace true love…

True love requires you to…

Give your whole self to your partner spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically…

You don’t runaway when your partner is at the lowest…

But rather,

You help them out of their trouble and push them forward so that they can look at life in a new angle…

But you also need to be careful not to fall into the motion of things…

Sometimes,

While helping our partner out, we tend to fall into the desperation trap, too…

So, please remember to take time out and refresh before returning to helping them…

But whatever that situation is:

“Never ever leave them alone to juggle with the problems…”

True love never walk out…

True love stays despite the darkest and lowest moment in life…

Remember:

When you agree to be in a relationship with your chosen one,

You automatically agreed to bond together…

You are meant to be there for each other…

And whatever that person go thru,

You will have to be extremely brave to help them out…

So now you know…

True love has its greatest benefit in life…

But it is also the most challenging relationship ever…

If you and your partner can surpass all the challenges…

You two are definitely made in Heaven!

Just keep loving people...

You cannot love anybody if you don't love God...
You cannot be nice to people if you are wicked to yourselves...

Love people even when they despise you...
Even when they are drawing many walls between you and them...

Life is full of people with lots of hatred...
Life is full of people with lots of grand materialistic achievements but tons of negative emotions...

When you go to the hospital/ hospice,
When you sit by the bedside of someone who is about to die...
Ask them: "What do you wish your life would be?"
They will say... "If only I have more time with my loved ones..."

Life...
It's all about love and relationship....
It's all about being with people and the connection that we are so fond of...

People who are about to die...
They ask for their family members and friends...
People who are so dear to their heart...
People whom they wanted to meet and forgive with all their heart and soul...

There will never once they will ask to see their academic certificate or the material possession...

Nobody... Not the death... will ask to see their precious trophy before they take their last breath...
Instead...
They ask for their family members and friends to stay with them until the very end...

That's love...
True love...
God's love....

Yet,
While we are still living,
We collect more possession than humans' love...
We push our loved ones aside and chase for monetary....
When our loved ones ask for more spending time,
Our frequent response is: "Later...", "Not now...", "Tomorrow" and etc...
So much of all these excuses have got to stop!

I once used to said to a friend:

"What if today... Right now - will be the last time you and I speak to one another? Are you going to tell me to stick to the corner and talk to the wall?

"You don't know what is going to happen to you when you walk out of the place... You have no guarantee that when you cross the road, you will reach the other side safely. You don't know which manic driver might come and knock you off the road. That could be your last breath... and if that ever happen, will you regret not loving and spending more time with people than you would of your possession?"

Just my two pence thoughts.


Also,
When you love people,
You love them unexpectedly and unconditionally...
You love because you want to...
Because it is truly from the very bottom of your heart...

But what happened when they are your enemies?
Do you wish them death?
Do you rejoice when they are gone?
What if your hatred towards them is just you being ultra hateful?

Hateful people are people with problem...
Not the person you hate...
But it is you who are being hateful - got it?

Why choose hate when you could love more?
Why wall them out when you should be breaking barriers?

Many people have issue with their relationship because they think the other party has got a problem...
But what if I were to tell you that...
"YOU are part of  the problem...
YOU are the one that make life worst for them...
And that YOU are the one that need to love them..."

But we always deny our faults...
We keep pushing blame to others...
Just to make ourselves feel better...
When the truth is... We are more wrong than right...

You know the saying: "It takes two to tango..."
When two people are in a relationship,
It is always that two parties' fault;
But never one or the other...
In short to say: it is impossible to blame one person for two people's fault...

E.g: You cannot blame your sister for stealing your dress if you don't know how to hide them from her...
You cannot blame your mum for nagging at your messy room if you have learn to keep your space clean and tidy...

And when you play the blame game...
You also started playing the hate game...
And sooner or later...
There will be more hatred than love in your life...


Many of us love people because we want to get something out of them...
That is where danger comes in...
The truth:
You don't love them...
You are manipulating them...
There is no sincerity in you...

That's why God doesn't like the way we are...
That's why we are called 'sinners'.
We use people for the things we love...
When we are supposed to use things for the people we loves...

Like yourself and many others...

I have people drawing walls around me because they think I am overboard with my affection...
But I'll always say these...

"It doesn't matter what they think of me now - because they are still alive and well... They don't know what they lost... One day when they land on their deathbed, they will realised that they rather have people like myself to show affection to them; than those who keep sucking material possessions out of them - because I don't ask for anything in return except to love people more and more each day... 

The last day will come; and when it does, I hope, it will not be too late... because I could have gone before them... For God takes those whom He loves... Those whom He rebuked and discipline. Those whom are earnest and repented... I know I am earnest and I repent every time I sin. Gasp when I made even a wee bit of mistakes in life; and running to God to ask for forgiveness. I fear of God more than any human being. Therefore I am afraid I might go before I am done loving those who needed more love than others."

So start treating people well...
They maybe your enemy on earth...
But they are also servant of God....
The children of God...
Just like you and me...

So love them as God loves you...

As 1 John 4:19 said: "We love because God first loved us."

Keep on loving…

Our life is supposed to be made of love…

But we are always on the ignorance side when it comes to love emotions.

Especially when we don’t get what we want,

We start throwing tantrums and grumbling like a spoilt child.

We lost our sense of gratitude and start hating people…

Love isn’t only for our spouse/ partners/ girlfriend/ boyfriend.

Love is for everyone – from our family members, friends, colleagues to strangers and ENEMIES!

But we purposefully only choose to love those who gives us what we want…

While completely cast out those who have nothing of our desire…

That’s how selfish we are as human being…

We think only of ourselves…

And no more than our circle of self-worth…

Anything beyond that is none of our concern…

That’s why the world is losing its compassionate love.

Everything is all about ‘Me, me, me, me, Me, ME!!!

We boost about who we are… but hardly a compliment towards others…

We show-off our materials… but never allowed others to lay a finger upon it…

If people doesn’t meet our expectation,

They are out of the league…

But when we got cast out, we plead to be taken back…

We have more self-love but only love a size of a pea for others…

Why?

Who taught us that?

What have become of us?

Friends,

Now I know why…

We love lesser than we are supposed to be…

Because we have been conquered by the devil…

Believe it or not…

We all have that moment when we have problem with people….

We want to fight, shout, scream, argue and etc…

That every onuce of anger inside us just wanted to be lashed out in split second…

You know that feeling when you lashed out – it just feel like you have achieved something grand…

But it actually hurt so much at the end of it…

I can’t tell you how many times I have been there and done that…

And every single time it happens,

I feel like the worst person on earth…

But thankfully,

I am glad to embed myself into meditation.

In my case,

My sort of meditation is to recite Christian bible verses…

It has do me lots of good than anything else…

And it is through that that I realized…

I have been controlled by the devil who is constantly trying to win me over all the time…

The devil has downplayed us by making us go insane with our behavior…

The devil has stir turmoil in our life and relationship…

The devil has caused us to fight and argue with our family even though it is avoidable...

The devil has won us over…

Is that what we want?

If not,

Let us stop it here…

Stop the devil from taking away our loved ones…

Stop him from destroying our life and relationship…

Stop him from scaring us and fearing us to death…

Don’t allow him to rule us…

Everytime someone throw hateful remarks at you,

Understand that it is not that person that hated you…

It is the devil that possess in their body that hates you…

So, please do not be fooled and make enemies with people…

Because none of us deserves enemies…

We all need more love than anything else…

So,

Just keep praying…

And don’t ever give up…

Just keep loving all over again and again….

Make the devil angry and he will eventually leave you alone…

“Be on your guard. Stand firm in faith. Be courageous. Be strong. Do everything in love.” – 1 Corinthians 16:13-14