True love...

This message hit me…

While I was busy window shopping…

“A firm loving relationship can endure all obstacles set ahead of them…

Nothing can banish it regardless to the velocity of barriers…

When you say “You are mine - forever…”

Will that really means everlasting?

How far can you really go to fulfil your words?

How can you ensure you stay romantically in relationship forever?”

I learn that,

To be in an everlasting relationship…

We need to put in effort into order to make it work…

It is impossible to have one party giving all the way and the other one receiving only…

I don’t believe in that…

Because if that is the case,

Sooner or later,

The relationship will collapse…

I believe that no matter what kind of relationship we are in,

Communication is the most important factor of all…

If we don’t want to understand each other;

Then it will be difficult for us to be friends much less to be a lifetime partner…

However,

If you allowed that person to be your friend but no more than that…

There is still a boundary between both of you…

Then it is impossible to go further…

It is very normal to be afraid at times…

Especially when it comes to a life-changing experience like being in a relationship…

Being in a relationship can be a real challenge…

It is a lifetime commitment…

And we have to go the extra miles at all times in order to meet in the middle…

Because no matter how much we love someone,

There is always some difference between us…

That we need to learn how to entwine with it….

Thankfully,

We are not the only one…

Everyone who is in the relationship felt the same anxiety too…

But it is the matter of how we deal with it…

I remembered many years back,

One of my friends said that

She didn’t even know how she got into the relationship…

As in,

She didn’t know how she managed to let the guy enter into her heart…

She only knew that life is entirely different without him by her side…

As for agreeing to be his girlfriend…

It took her some time to accept him…

Partially because,

She doesn’t even know if it is the right thing to do…

She was entire confused and was quite down for some time…

As a very close friend,

I was quite helpless back then…

Until one day she suddenly made up her mind and said,

She agree to be with him…

Just like her,

I was also confused with the whole situation…

I also wonder whether she is doing the right thing…

As a friend,

I don’t want her to be hurt in case of a wrong decision…

But at the same time blessed her with a loving heart.

Now,

As I grow mature,

I understand that agreeing to be someone’s lifetime partner is a very stressful thing…

Half a time we wonder whether that person is really the one for us…

I know that some people just agree for the sake of ‘wanting to have a partner’

But the serious ones fear of making the wrong choice…

Because heartbreak will be so tormenting…

If you ask me about myself,

I am a serious lover…

I will give my all just like I do for my work and performances…

I am not perfect…

But I will always give the very best I can…

And that’s what I learn from the little voice inside me…

"We all have strong desire…

Some may even fall for each other due to lust…

But many fail to maintain the pure spiritual love for each other…

It is just so easy to say that three words, “I love you”

But does your feeling really mean more than the words itself?"

You may wonder why some marriage last forever,

But some break-up after a decade or two…

Well…

Long-lasting relationship requires:

1)    Time – lots of time… including sacrificing 80% of your personal moment. So you have to make sure you are truly comfortable with this person who is going to be in your life 24/7 for the rest of your life. If you feel creepy with his/ her existence – you are heading for disaster…

2)    Patience – you will bound to find flaws in your partner. If you cannot tolerate him/ her, you are heading for destruction – for REAL! Because then, every single day you will be fighting/ arguing over the same issue which will never come to an end until you are separated for good.

3)    Determination – The chase isn’t just for mere dating. Just because you are finally married doesn’t means you can take it easy…no! You still have to keep chasing as if you are going to lose him/ her anytime soon. The chase is on FOREVER! Unless you want the relationship comes to an end.

4)    Trust – you cannot be with someone whom you cannot share your deepest secret with. Especially when that person is going to be your roommate for life. (You don’t know what you might blabber in your sleep! – especially if your partner is a light sleeper and can hear everything…)

5)    Understanding – Everyone of us comes with a baggage. Nobody is completely perfect. So, we must be more than willing to deal with those baggages. The smartest way that I truly learn now is to ‘sleep on it…’

6)    Acceptance – Accept that everyone is different include the person you are with. DON’T ever try to change your partner!!! Your partner is the way s/he is and that’s that. You either take it or leave it. God has taken you the way you are including all your flaws; so don’t be such a horrible witch/ wizard and try to manipulate your poor partner into someone s/he isn’t. (that’s speaking from experience!)

So from here,

You can tell that lifelong relationship requires tremendous work…

You cannot be in a relationship if you are not ready to work hard for it.

It does look fun from the outside…

And it can be on the inside, too…

Except that you need to remember the 6 characteristic to make the relationship long-lasting…

Once you fully embedded into the 6 powerful characteristics,

You will be able to embrace true love…

True love requires you to…

Give your whole self to your partner spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically…

You don’t runaway when your partner is at the lowest…

But rather,

You help them out of their trouble and push them forward so that they can look at life in a new angle…

But you also need to be careful not to fall into the motion of things…

Sometimes,

While helping our partner out, we tend to fall into the desperation trap, too…

So, please remember to take time out and refresh before returning to helping them…

But whatever that situation is:

“Never ever leave them alone to juggle with the problems…”

True love never walk out…

True love stays despite the darkest and lowest moment in life…

Remember:

When you agree to be in a relationship with your chosen one,

You automatically agreed to bond together…

You are meant to be there for each other…

And whatever that person go thru,

You will have to be extremely brave to help them out…

So now you know…

True love has its greatest benefit in life…

But it is also the most challenging relationship ever…

If you and your partner can surpass all the challenges…

You two are definitely made in Heaven!