Our
life is like a journey taking off from one of a few available
tracks...
We are like an
aeroplane...
Running on
the track and depart in different direction...
Our end-life is our
destination...
The journey where our
aeroplane go thru is the very path for us...
No two aeroplanes
can fly in the exact angle simultaneously...
Although they may land
in the same location...
Credit to one of my former lecturers. He
was the one that advise me on this...
I remember an incident,
Whereby I did poorly for one of the subjects I
took during a semester…
I was pouting at the corner of the classroom…
Unable to face one of my lecturer when he
expected me to get good marks for that particular subject…
He saw me and came over…
Upon looking at my sad face,
He said,
“You worry too much.”
I looked at him and said,
“Why can’t I do well just
like everyone else?
I have been working
hard on it but I just cannot get to where I want to be…
Why can’t I be as good
or even better than my classmates?
Am I ultimately
useless?”
My lecturer looked at me with gentleness…
“Why are you comparing
yourself with others?
How can you run someone
else’s race?
Do you know how much
people have done in order to get to where they are today?”
“I am sure someone else
is thinking the same thing of you…
Despite some of your
weaknesses…
You have an amazing
gift that others envy of you…
People are jealous of
your showmanship…
Because they cannot perform
like you…
They cannot charm the
audiences the way you do…
But only you know how
much effort you have inserted in order to get to where you are today.
Nobody can run your
race except you….
So, shouldn’t others be
jealous of you as much as you do to them?”
I looked at him and think carefully…
“It’s true….
I know of my musical
friends whom admit that they wish they have my gift…
And honestly to say…
I don’t even know what I
have done to be so outstanding on-stage…
I just know that I need
to do what I thought is right…
As long as I don’t act
like a fool…
That’s it…”
My lecturer nodded his head and continued…
“Everybody has
different strength…
Some are good one area…
While others are more other
form…”
“As for you…
I can see your strength
in performing…
If I were to compare your
friends to you and to treat you the same as I would of them…
Then I am not being fair to either of you…
For each of you are
special in your own ways…”
Looking back at this situation,
I learn something very useful in here…
Back then,
I used to compare with others…
When I see someone having better marks than me,
I wondered why I didn’t get just the same mark
as them…
When I see someone doing well…
I wonder why I am not doing well too…
I keep on and on comparing until my heartache…
Part of me wanted to give up…
So that I can stop comparing for once…
My lecturer read my mind and said,
“Don’t compare yourself
with others…
Because you don’t know
how much effort they have put in…
Compare yourself with
yourself…
See what you have done
in the past…
And improve from there…”
“Because as I said
earlier…
‘Nobody can run your
race…’
Only you can take up
your own challenge…
And nobody can run your
friends’ race except themselves…
Because nobody knows
how much they can exert…
And what are their
limitations….
If you were to put
yourself onto their race track,
You will definitely
lose…
Because there are lots
of obstacles that you are not made to go thru it…
But it is only for them
to fight the battle by themselves...”
It was at that moment that I finally understood
him…
Human nature loves to compare with others…
When they see someone else better than them…
They will keep comparing non-stop…
They forget that everybody has different
strength…
They thought that what other people can do…
They also must be able to do it…
And that is not true…
Because we are made differently from everyone
else…
So that we all can do different things and fulfil
God’s plan…
It’s true that you may be able to do what
others do…
But then, you will find that there will be a
huge setback on your behalf...
You will struggle to the point of frustration…
While others will just scoot off within a
finger-snap.
Some people had it easy…
As if they were born for it…
While others struggle to get it right…
Have you been thru that?
I am sure you do…
We have the good and the bad…
And all of us are different…
That is why we cannot always compare ourselves
to others…
People can only admire or even envy with what
we have…
But they don’t know what we have to go thru to
be who we are today…
Because they are not made to go thru our
obstacles…
They don’t have our elements to break our life hindrances…
So it is the same vice versa…
Therefore,
We should not compare ourselves to others
anymore…
Because we can never go thru what they have
been thru…
It is better to compare ourselves with our
past…
Then only we can improve for the better…
Have your own unique goal,
Something that only you can do it…
Focus on your aspect…
Go thru your own force and flaw…
And finish the race with pride…
