This message hit me…
While I was busy window shopping…
Valentine’s Day was yesterday…
But I was extremely busy trying to complete my work…
Therefore,
As a treat for my work done,
I replaced yesterday’s window shopping to today…
I got this message as I was strolling inside a bookstore…
“A firm relationship can endure all obstacles set ahead of them…
Nothing can banish it regardless to the velocity of barriers…
When you say “You are forever mine…”
Will that really means everlasting?
How far can you really go to ensure your words come true?
What will you do to make sure it stays the romantic till your old age?”
Now,
To remind you…
I have not been in a romantic relationship to actually experience the love and pain in it…
But I can feel it even being solo…
Because I enjoy watching couple strolling in the mall hand-in-hand…
I like to understand the way they communicate with each other…
And I want to know how love spark between them…
But back to the message I received…
I learn that,
To be on a very firm relationship…
We need to put in effort into order to make it work…
It is impossible to have one party giving all the way and the other one receiving only…
I don’t believe in that…
Because if that is the case,
Sooner or later,
The relationship will collapse…
I believe that no matter what kind of relationship we are in,
Communication is the most important factor of all…
If you don’t want to understand me and I also refuse to know you…
It will be very hard for us to be friends much less to be a lifetime partner…
However,
If you allowed that person to be your friend but no more than that…
There is still a boundary between both of you…
Then it is impossible to go further…
It is very normal to be afraid at times…
Especially when it comes to life-changing experience…
I remembered many years back,
One of my friends said that
One of my friends said that
She didn’t even know how she got into the relationship…
As in,
She didn’t know how she managed to let the guy enter into her heart…
She only knew that life is entirely different without him by her side…
As for agreeing to be his girlfriend…
It took her some time to accept him…
Partially because,
She doesn’t even know if it is the right thing to do…
She was entire confused and was quite down for some time…
As a very close friend,
I was quite helpless back then…
Until one day she suddenly made up her mind and said,
She agree to be with him…
Just like her,
I was also confused with the whole situation…
I also wonder whether she is doing the right thing…
As a friend,
I don’t want her to be hurt in case of a wrong decision…
But at the same time blessed her with a loving heart.
Now,
As I grow mature,
I understand that agreeing to be someone’s lifetime partner is a very stressful thing…
Half a time we wonder whether that person is our right one…
I know that some people just agree for the sake of ‘wanting to have a partner’
But the serious one scare to make the wrong choice….
If you ask me about myself,
I am a serious lover…
I will give my all just like I do for my work and performances…
I am not perfect…
But I will always give the very best I can…
And that’s what I learn from a little voice inside me…
"We have strong desire…
Some may even fall for each other due to lust…
But many fail to maintain the pure spiritual love for each other…
It is just so easy to say that three words, “I love you”
But does your feeling really mean more than the words itself?"
You may wonder why some marriage last forever,
But some break-up after a decade or two…
From here,
I guess you can tell that the long lasting marriage is the one with true love…
True love as in,
Giving your all in terms of spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically…
While receiving it back to mutual your response
While receiving it back to mutual your response
You don’t runaway when that person is at the lowest…
And you’re the only one that he/ she can rely on when troubles occur…
While short-term marriage is due to physically love only…
You love just for the sake of wanting something out of the person…
Not because you truly love them…
Once the person can no longer gives you what you want…
You pack your bags and leave…
I guess,
For those single readers out there…
You may wonder whether the person is your right one…
Actually there is a way to test the relationship…
If you notice the difference between true love and ‘fake-love’
You will be able to find the solution…
True love requires:
a) Time
b) Patience
c) Determination
d) Trust
e) Understanding
f) Acceptance
To challenge your relationship…
Study these 6 characteristics very well,
And you will see for yourself whether your relationship can last or not…
My best suggestion will be the most challenging one…
It is to separate from that person for a long period without connecting with him/ her…
It means that,
You cannot call, SMS, messaging them thru Facebook, MSN, Twitter and etc, or even see them for a long duration…
In this severance moment,
You are to resume your daily activities without him/ her in your mind and existence…
From here,
You will need to start searching within your soul deep inside you…
Allow this little voice to speak to you as a form of message…
Cry if you must when it too painful to bear…
Write in your diary about how you feel…
But don’t tell him/ her yet until the probation period end…
This is to test how strong you feel about him/ her…
This is to test the purity of your love for him/ her…
At the end of the period,
Exchange you view with each other honestly…
Listen to the other party say about his/ her feeling throughout the separation period…
If the both of you realized that you have the same thought…
Then you know that he/ she is the one for you…
As crazy as it sounds…
But this is actually the best way to know if you are true to him/ her…
And the same vice verse…
If you find that you don’t feel the pain…
You cannot sense anything during the separation period…
That means,
There is possibility of breakup or divorce…
The standard probation period is usually around 3 to 4 months…
But depends on how long you want to test the relationship…
Because the truth is that…
Nobody can tell you whether you are right or wrong to test the relationship…
It is between the both of you to decide…
My choice of finding true love is definitely the separation period…
I know it will be very difficult to endure it…
But I believe that if he is the one for me…
Nothing will come between us…
And that’s will means more than just 3 to 4 months parting time…
But it will also include our lifetime…
In this manner,
I will know whether or not
He is the right one…
Whether or not…
He will be my true love…
If you dare to risk your friendship…
You want to find true love,
I will certainly encourage you to go for separation period method…
From there,
You will find out your true feeling on him/ her…
Then you will know if he/ she is really meant for you…
Give time to search for true love...
Don’t be in a hurry to make a choice…
I am sure you don’t want heart-break…
I am also certain that you want to move on forever and not getting pulled back all the time…
Therefore,
Allow time to be your guide…
Give in when the time tell you to do so…
And leave it when the little voice urges you…
Trust the nature to give you the very best answer…
And you will find your true love once and for all…
